The Power In A Gathering Of Women

by: Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE

Forget "fight or flight" as the only duo of responses in the face of stress. For women, there's a third response: "befriend". A landmark UCLA study turned five decades of stress research on its head with the revelation that a cascade of brain chemicals gives women a larger behavioral repertoire when confronted with stress. The hormone oxytocin is released as part of the stress response in women. It controls the fight/flight response and, instead, encourages her to tend children and gather with other women.

Accordingly to co-researcher Dr. Laura Cousino Klein, now assistant professor of bio-behavioral health at Penn State, the study suggests that this "tending and befriending" response to oxytocin produces a calming effect. Although it will take new studies to reveal all the ways in which oxytocin encourages women to care for children and band together, it
might also explain why women consistently outlive men.

I have addressed numerous women's conferences and corporate networks of women and I can attest to the observable behavior that participants leave these sessions feeling stronger, encouraged, and positive. I believe they also leave healthier. The famed Nurses Health Study from Harvard Medical School found that the more friends people have, they less likely they are to develop physical ailments and the more likely they are to cope better with challenges.


Sadly, today's busy agendas often find women canceling the most positive and healthy thing they can do: gather with other women to engage in the kind of "rapport" and "report" talk that hallmark feminine conversations. The corporate women's networks that generate the most return for the time and money investment allow for the nuts-and-bolts training needed for the business while also creating plenty of opportunity for mentoring, problem-solving and the informal sharing of personal issues.

Create a gathering of women and stand back. The energy reborn from conversation, caring, compassion and concern can move a community, a business, and a nation into a higher place.

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About the author:
Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE is head of McDargh Communications, a training and consulting practice founded in 1980. She's also an award-winning author, radio commentator, and on the Board of the National Speakers Association. Eileen can be reached at http://www.EileenMcDargh.com

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The Truth About Plus Size Beauty

by : Janice Wee

Some of the sexiest women in the world are considered on the heavy side. Can a woman who wears a size 12 dress and lifts weights to keep fit considered sexy?

Marilyn Monroe wore a size 12 dress. She actually lifted weights regularly to keep fit. Yet men found her incredibly sexy, a favourite pin up girl then, a sex symbol now, years after her tragic death.

When Jennifer Lopez first started out, her critics said she wouldn't fo far, because her behind was way too big. Undaunted, she flaunted her curvy bottom. Now, women are going for butt implants, to be just like her.

Guys like curvy women. Take Eminem's hit for example. Ass like that. It is basically about women with curvy bottoms. Plus size bottoms. Men do find big bottoms sexy. Plus size women can be sexy.

Seriously. How sexy is a skeleton? If a woman's bones are showing through her skin, is she really sexy? Yet women, from teenage girls to mature grown ups who should know better, are starving themselves just because of that dress size.

This thin is beautiful craze is relatively new. Primitive society regarded plump women as beautiful. Even classical master centuries ago created paintings of their beauties, who by todays standards are definitely plus sized.

Thankfully, the hour glass figure is one beauty ideal that still remains. Women with big breasts and big hips, but with a small waist have always been considered very attractive. If you are plus size to begin with, with a big bust and round hips, you can get that hourglass figure by wearing plus size corsets. You can find those at http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/plus-size-corsets.htm. That look still prevails now, with the countless women undergoing surgery in order to have bigger breasts.

On top of that, you can be plus size and healthy. Healthy women athletes who are big boned and muscular probably would not fit into regular clothes made for skeletons. Yet their bodies are strong, taut and sexy. Sure, some of the regular sized jeans might be too tight if you are a big boned runner, but you can still look gorgeous in good looking jeans meant for larger sizes, like these at http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/plus-size-jeans.htm . And forget about those pesky dress sizes. You can look amazingly sexy in beautiful plus size dresses like those found at http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/plus-size-dresses.htm. These actually fit you and flatter your figure.

A size 14 is a plus size, but when a woman is tall and strong, with lovely hair, pretty features and inner beauty, she is very beautiful.

If you are plus size, celebrate your curves. Beauty is more than that number on the dress label. It is about your poise. Your confidence. The way you carry yourself. How well groomed you are. You hair. You features. The way you make the best of what you were born with. A glowing skin. A healthy body, regardless of the number on that label, is beautiful.



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The writer is the webmaster of http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com which also allows you tocreate new plus size looks for plus size women at http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/createoutfit.php


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Author : Marc Rudov Blasts Unilateral Pursuit in Article About The Golden Rule

Marc H. Rudov, author of The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth (TM), has published a new article, “The Golden Rule Dictates Your Sex Life,” that outlines the hazards of men unilaterally pursuing women. Basically, the traditional courting roles -- man as hunter and woman as trophy -- impose an unhealthy imbalance that obviates a peer relationship, which is the cornerstone of true mutual respect and a satisfying sex life. Like it or not, relationships adhere to the “Golden Rule of the Business World”: whoever has the gold makes the rules. The article is available from the book's Website:
http://TheMansNoNonsenseGuideToWomen.com.

Los Gatos, CA (PRWEB) January 5, 2004 -- Marc H. Rudov, author of The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth (TM) (ISBN 0-9745017-0-0), has published a new article, “The Golden Rule Dictates Your Sex Life,” that outlines the hazards of men unilaterally pursuing women. Basically, the traditional courting roles -- man as hunter and woman as trophy -- impose an unhealthy imbalance that obviates a peer relationship, which is the cornerstone of true mutual respect and a satisfying sex life. Like it or not, relationships adhere to the “Golden Rule of the Business World”: whoever has the gold makes the rules. In a stereotypical situation, a man, by default, leads and bankrolls the courting process. Consequently, he feels ownership of the process and the woman. Notwithstanding the obvious hazards of such an arrangement, most romancers are resigned to it. The only solution, which requires that both men and women reject years of socialization, is mutualpursuit. A companion piece to the book, the article is available for downloading from the Media & Events page at:
http://TheMansNoNonsenseGuideToWomen.com.

“Unilateral pursuit is an obsolete, destructive, demeaning practice for both the pursuers and the pursued, making both parties unhappy,” claims Rudov. “In the classical chase, man plays the aggressor and bounty-seeker, and, by design, woman plays the target, prize, conquest, and acquired asset. This power ritual made sense when women could not vote, get credit, own property, or be president of Brown University or CEO of Xerox. But, it sure as hell doesn’t make sense in our modern world. So, the woman who insists on being pursued, the passive trophy, must understand that she is yielding power to the man, who becomes the one with the gold and, therefore, the one who will and should set the rules. In professional sports, after collecting one trophy, the athlete has but one mandate: shelve it and win the next one. Men and women who play the unilateral-pursuit game always seem to experience the same phenomenon,” explains Author Rudov.

Continuing, Author Rudov admonishes women: “Quite simply: If you don’t want to be treated like a trophy, don’t act like one. Be proactive, contribute gold, and share control.” Rudov adds, “Men and women should accept only peer-based, reciprocating relationships that begin with mutual, simultaneous pursuit.”

Contrary to popular belief, Author Rudov maintains that men and women are from the same planet but, unfortunately, have been socialized differently and programmed for conflict. He counsels men that the only way to succeed with women is to remove their layers of socialized behavior and find women who have done, or are willing to do, likewise. The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth, which is available for $17.95 on http://TheMansNoNonsenseGuideToWomen.com, teaches them how. Both men and women have been buying the book and validating its principles.

The book’s Website also contains a helpful advice column for men and women: Dear No-Nonsense Advisor.

About the Author

Marc H. Rudov, an investment bankerand business consultant residing in Silicon Valley, California, received his formal education in engineering and business. He obtained his vast informal training in relationships with women through over a decade in the dating world after his divorce. In addition to his book, Mr. Rudov wrote the article “Five Myths About Women.” Contact Mr. Rudov at: info@themansnononsenseguidetowomen.com

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